Setting Boundaries or Building Walls

Relationships take work.  Not only familial or romantic relationships, friends, co-workers, your neighbors, and more…there are many people you are in relationship with. Setting boundaries are a necessary and a very healthy part of mutually beneficial and respectful relationships.  Letting people know what you will and won’t permit in your relationships, gives them clear communicationContinue reading “Setting Boundaries or Building Walls”

Tough Conversations…Talk About “It”

“With communication, you bond; without it, you separate.” Karen Solt Having relationship problems?  Having trouble honestly discussing them with your partner?  That would not be unusual.  Here’s the deal:  if you don’t feel safe and valued in your relationship, you can’t communicate your true feelings; so, you don’t have an honest relationship…yet.   This dishonest, non-communicativeContinue reading “Tough Conversations…Talk About “It””

Acceptance Does Not Mean Approval

Things happen that we don’t like…it’s just a fact of life. How we adapt to those negative things can make all the difference in the world to how much serenity and peace we walk around with. I’ve never met a person that just plain wants to be unhappy, but I have met many people whoContinue reading “Acceptance Does Not Mean Approval”

Elephants are Cute…But Pink Elephants Suck

“There’s a pink elephant in the room.” We’ve all heard that phase, right? What is a pink elephant and how did it become the spokes-animal for poor communication or things that people are avoiding? If you’re looking for those answers, I doubt I’ll be able to provide them. But if you’re looking for some thoughtsContinue reading “Elephants are Cute…But Pink Elephants Suck”

External Validation and Finding your Beacon

I have to admit…I’m feeling a little hurt this morning. That’s hard for me to write as there is a part of me that doesn’t like to express when I’m in pain. You see…here’s my current truth…when I started this blogging thing and expressing my ideas, I had an expectation that some of my friends wouldContinue reading “External Validation and Finding your Beacon”

Expectations — the Subtle Setup

I’ll let you in on a little secret: If I have resentment toward someone or I am feeling depressed about some past thing or event, I have an unmet expectation. The subtle setup of an expectation can hit me like a left jab before I even knew it was there. What is an expectation anyway?Continue reading “Expectations — the Subtle Setup”

Acceptance is Crucial for True Forgiveness.

Last week, I published my first blog about “Judgment” and opened the door for future topic suggestions. Of the different ideas that I received back, “forgiveness” came up. This is an excellent topic, as I believe the benefits of finding a place of true forgiveness is a place of peace and freedom. As always, theseContinue reading “Acceptance is Crucial for True Forgiveness.”

The Good and Not so Good of “Judgment”

Who am I to Judge? What gives me the “right” to judge others? Do I judge others more harshly than I judge myself? I would guess that the more harshly I judge others is a great indication of how harshly I judge myself. When I looked up the word “judgment” in dictionary.com, it was niceContinue reading “The Good and Not so Good of “Judgment””