LGBTQ+ | Operation “End Suicides”

And then the Universe answered my questions, from many angles and in different ways.  The question was, “What do you need from me?”  Essentially, “Where can I best serve?”

You would think that I have heard this response before but, in all honesty, I was in denial.  “How will I be received?  Who won’t read or watch my work anymore?  How will my family and friends react?  Will I embarrass them?  Can I really make a difference here?”  These were all worries in my head.  These were all barriers to expressing a unique part of me, my limitless heart, the part that the Universe is calling for.

If you asked me why I do what I do, I would tell you that I want to end suicides.

Can you imagine?  It’s my ultimate dream.  I believe the only way to get there is through finding self-acceptance…essentially self-love.  You won’t kill yourself if you accept and love yourself.  So, I teach self-acceptance…I teach about the inward journey of finding yourself.  A lofty dream, but mine anyway.

Yet I kept hearing about the suicide rate percentage of the LGBTQ+ population, my family, which is 5-8 times higher than any other population in the nation.  And I kept hearing it…

the Universe made sure that I heard, and it became clear where “I am needed.”

I heard it in my meditations where I was being called to step into this place that scares me.  I heard the answer in two podcasts that I randomly stumbled across.  It came when I listened to a masterclass that discussed your audience’s pain points…essentially, what their pain is and what you can offer.  The final answer came in the form of a friend looking for someone to go to the local schools to share and speak with the LGBTQ+ youth.

Okay, Universe, I got it.  LGBTQ+, Suicides and Self-Acceptance…my life has led me here:

LGBTQ+ – I joined the Navy when I was 18 and was in my first gay relationship a few years later.  So yes, the world’s finest Navy made me this way.  That wasn’t true 🙂.  I spent my next 22 years serving my country, absolutely loving my job, while also fearing being outed for being gay.  I, like most of my friends, remained closeted.  If I discussed my life, I would be “kicked out,” essentially forced out of my family.  It was painful, and I stayed hypervigilant.  Many young LGBTQ+ experience that from their nuclear family on a daily basis.

As far as family and friends, I’ve had some “I love you no matter what” coming out experiences…and I’ve had some, “I love you even though you’re now going to go to hell” coming out experiences.  I still brace for impact and anticipate the latter, regardless of who I’m coming out to.

The “baggage” of living in the closet for so many years is a tough one to overcome.

Suicide – Unfortunately, suicide has been a part of my life since I can remember.  One of the first deaths I recall was a friend’s father driving his car off of a cliff.  That same friend, Danny, was like a brother to me.  He also drove off of a cliff in 1997, which was devastating. I miss Danny a lot and will probably always regret not calling him back the last time he called.  I’ve lost four other people to this epidemic, three high school friends and then one of my mentors in the Navy.  There are never answers that make sense.  I could go on…maybe one of these days I will.

For now, I’ll only say that one suicide is one too many and those of us left behind have a really hard time ever letting ourselves off of the hook.

The Solution – Traveling the long and solitary trip back to self-acceptance is something every human endures, and I’ve been on that road since I can remember. Those who have experienced societal rejection have a harder time accepting and loving themselves. They don’t know how to live in a world where they feel rejected, from their family, their friends, and their God, for something that is their nature.  This is why they are taking their own lives 5-8 times more than their counterparts. They want what you want.  They want a peaceful world.  They want love and acceptance.  They want a place where they are treated equally, with dignity and kindness, and mostly they want to live happy and healthy lives.

They haven’t yet learned that they are loved and accepted, that they are their answer, that life gets better, that their uniqueness is their incredible strength.

If you are struggling with being uniquely awesome, please hear this:

Everyone, and I do mean EVERYONE, is trying or has tried to fit in.  It doesn’t work because you’re trying to fit into someone else’s life.  You are meant to fit into your life…it was tailor-made just for you.

I know it seems like it won’t get better, but I promise it will.  Reach out and just keep moving through it.  There will come a day when you look back and think, “Man…this life I’m living?  It is one big Hell Yes!”

Message received, Universe.  I’m stepping in.  I would love for you to join me.  Danny would like that…Peace friend ✌️🙂


p.s. If you’re in struggle and need support, don’t give up…reach out to one of these resources:


p.p.s. Here’s my first video on Operation “End Suicides”

Published by Karen Solt

I am an Emotional Wellness Coach, YouTuber, Blogger, and activist for peace, unity, freedom, equality and connection. I hold a Masters in Psychology (Counseling) and am passionate about helping others. A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, I have had various life experiences that have created my unique style of coaching. I remain curious about the human experience and am beyond grateful for the life I share with my fabulous dog, Paco. You can learn more about me and my work at KarenSolt.com, https://www.youtube.com/c/KarenSolt, or you can reach me at Karen@KarenSolt.com.

8 thoughts on “LGBTQ+ | Operation “End Suicides”

  1. Thank you for your endless compassion. I love the breadth and depth of your caring that comes through so clearly with all your posts and videos. I appreciate all reminders of the importance of loving kindness.

  2. I love this Bud, so well written. I connect with all of it, listening to the universe, Navy, suicide, LGBTQ and self-acceptance….I hear you and I’d say you’re on to something.

  3. These sort of posts seem like a hippie do-gooder’s endeavor to self-righteousness. I’m only posting this because I’m curious about your mindset here. I usually find this sort of self-righteousness to be a form of narcissism, if not outright masturbation.

    The universe is filled with claws and teeth. Humans like to think they’re so bad, but have you ever seen a cat toy with a mouse? Hell, you should spend an evening watching national geographic. Humans are not worse. They’re just smarter, and that’s it.

    End suicides? Maybe possible, but not likely. Here’s why:

    My Dad used to kick me around. He also taught me from the very outset how to be an asshole. Sometimes he would torture animals in front of my brothers and I. He was always screwing over people and laughing about it. He threw around words like “faggot” and “niggers” all the time. We learned how to be this way and never had a chance, from the very outset. Some of my stories would keep you up at night.

    I went to school and grew up with this as my only frame of reference. I got into fights, enjoyed being a bully, loved vandalism, was used to throwing my weight around, and generally thinking it was cool to “fuck the system” and “trust no one”

    And now the more discerning contribution of all this to the current proposal: There are millions of me, and we’re all circling each other. Some are worse than others. Some are so worse it would scar you for life just to watch them for a single day.

    Suicide was and always will be part of this un-fixable, unpredictable box of razor-blades called Life. And from my perspective, it’s impossible to take these hippie spiritualists seriously. I believe the only way to try and make things better (and possibly have a real impact on suicide) is to raise our children better.

    Most “do-gooders” I’ve met are just masturbating to how righteous they are and their results are ultimately, as always, ineffectual. You want to make a difference? Raise your kids.

    Just my thoughts. Sorry if they’re too dark for this discussion.

    Cheers,

    Allen

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