Connecting to your Heartbeat…

Screen Shot 2017-05-09 at 3.43.45 PMI don’t gamble, but if I was a betting woman, I’d feel pretty confident betting that you seek a world that is more peaceful, unified, loving, kind and compassionate. I do too…I’m on a quest, per se, and one of the ways that I’m finding a more peaceful world is by becoming more peace-full. In psychology this is called projection; when I project peace, unification, love, kindness and compassion, I find those things reflected back at me. Since sharing my experiences to connect with you is at the top of my priorities, and this blog is intended to do just that…share with you so that we can co-create the world that we seek.

Are you one of those people who believes you can’t meditate? Me too…until recently. I have heard so many people say that one of the best ways to peace and happiness is found through meditation, which I have attempted on and off for years, yet have never really  felt like I “got it.” I’ve tried various forms of meditation, to include: focusing on my breath, walking meditation, guided meditation (using audio CDs and mobile applications), body scanning, and the list goes on and on. My struggle is my very controlling mind (or ego) that wants to keep me disconnected from my heart, in my thoughts and disassociated from being present.

I’ve recently engaged the art of self-compassion about how I meditate (I just heard you go, “duhhhh.” You know what they say, “the teacher appears when the student is ready”). With meditation, I believe I always tried to do what I always do, which is go down the slippery slope of perfectionism and be the best meditator ever (“if I can’t do it perfectly, I’m not going to do it at all”). That said, when I started down this “quit hiding, get real and show up” road, one of the things that my heart was calling me to do was to connect, get quiet and listen. So I started meditating…one five-minute (now 15-minute) period at a time. In my first meditation, I heard my heartbeat and I intuitively knew that was where I needed to connect, so that’s what I now do… I listen for, connect with and breathe into my heart’s “thump, thump, thump.”

On occasion, I’ve have the incredible experience of momentarily “falling in” or “letting go” in meditation (which has happened in small bits as they were too beautiful…too perfect…and quite honestly, scared the crap out of me and sent me back to my mind). As a result of these moments, I’m now meditation hooked. I sometimes feel a tear or two slowly falling down my cheek when the awesome of all that is has encompassed me. It’s a momentary loss of my mind, who wants to tell me that it didn’t happen, that I’m making it up, and that I shouldn’t share it because you will think “I’ve lost my mind.” And here’s the best part…for small moments I have lost my mind, which tells me that I’m being controlled less by my mind and am finding a deeper connection with my heart.

Here’s what meditation has taught me so far: I am not my body, my relationships, my job, my accomplishments or my material possessions. I am love (you are love)…at my core (at your core)…meditation has shown me that. I get quiet and I listen to my heartbeat…one “thump” at a time. And then my head starts to think about what I’m going to do that day, what I’m going to eat, where Paco (my dog) is, when I’m going to workout with my girlfriend, that email that hasn’t been responded to, and more…and I thank my head, apologize to my heart for disconnecting and reconnect to that soft “thump.”

So I attempt to go into meditation now with an open heart and just be present with whatever happens. I feel the beat of my heart and ask my mind to serve the agenda of my heart and my heart to respect the intelligence and necessity of my mind. I’m hopeful that this practice will allow me to keep opening, and show me those small glimpses of perfection that is everywhere as often as I’m open to receiving it. And sometimes in small glimpses, my heart shows me the magnificence of all that really is, this connection to my soul, my heart and my creator…and I am overwhelmed, because there are no words, and because it’s very seldom that I can’t find words 🙂

Lastly, in a world afflicted with disconnection, addiction, broken hearts, disillusion, and wandering souls, what if you knew that meditating would largely contribute as a remedy toward a cure? Would it then be worth 5, 10 or 30 minutes of your time? If yes, join me and the billions of other humans who got here sooner than I did…I’m definitely a work in progress with this meditation stuff. However, if the level of peace that I’m feeling after this short time is any indication of what is possible, I’m going to keep “falling in.” The Dalia Lama agrees 🙂 Until next time my friend…much peace and many blessings.


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach, YouTuber, Blogger, and advocate for human peace, unity and connection.  She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling) and works individually with clients, creates informative videos and blogs, and also presents educational workshops and classes to others seeking self-awareness, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to uncover hidden sabotage patterns. Additionally, she is the Executive Assistant/Guardian Angel to JP Sears at Awaken with JP.

 A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


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Four Steps to Becoming Your Own Wizard…

“If you change anything today, what would it be?”

wizard-picIf you had a magic wand, what is the one thing that you would wish for? Or asked another way, if you could change one thing today, what would you change? This is a common type of question, known as “the miracle question,” that is used in counseling. It can be extremely effective when used in conjunction with specific steps to figure out if you really want what you “think” you want. This is an extremely useful process that can shine a light on the reasons you might be self-sabotaging (wanting that thing…and then sabotaging it either before you get it or after you have achieved it). Here are the four steps with two examples of how I use them in my life:

Step 1: Speaking the Dream…Literally. For many, it’s “I wish I was skinnier; I wish I was in a relationship; I wish I was rich; I wish I had a different job, etc.).

My Literal Dream(s): “I wish I lived in Hawaii” and “I wish I was more fit.”

Step 2: Determine the Metaphoric Meaning to your Wish. Find the deeper meaning for your literal wish. To do this, you can ask yourself, “What would it mean if I were (skinnier, in a relationship, rich, etc.”) For example, “If I were in a relationship, I would feel lovable, not alone, worthy, and connected.” This can illuminate areas where you are looking to an external source to essentially “fill up” a part of you that “feels empty.”

            My Metaphoric Meaning(s): Living in Hawaii would mean that I was more peaceful, content, relaxed, and successful (it’s what Hawaii represents to me).

            Being more fit would mean that I was healthier; more balanced, less stress, and looked better. The deeper meaning is that I would have less fear about being in pain and having illness, as I get older (as I’ve witnessed in other family members).

Step 3: Determine the Positive and Negative Consequences of the Wish. I love this step, as it is great for illuminating why you might not really want the “thing” that you think you want. For example, to be in a relationship means that you give up some of your independence; to be skinnier means that you might get some unwanted attention; to be rich might mean that you have to work harder, that family members and friends want support, and that you have to pay more taxes. These unwanted negative consequences are what subconsciously sideswipe our dreams.

After determining the positive and negative consequences, you then have to decide if you’re willing to accept all of them. If you aren’t, then you will most likely sabotage your dream.

 Hawaii – Positives: Sunshine, relaxation, casual lifestyle, beaches, beautiful island. Negatives: Paco (my dog) would have to go into quarantine, would be confused and would go through abandonment issues again (he’s a rescue); the cost of living; and leaving family and friends in Southern California. 

Hawaii willing to accept? No (not the changes Paco would endure).

Getting Fit – Positives: Healthy, more energy, look better, feel better, etc. Negatives: Sore muscles, time commitment, and then the deeper meaning: Being unfit gives me a deflection from something (unconscious) deeper that I don’t see. If I get fit, that “hidden” thing will probably surface (trust me…I know it will).

Getting fit willing to accept? Yes

Step 4: Get Creative about your Dream. This step is where you tap into the creative aspects of your dream. You can journal about what you want it to look like; you can create art around the images that you envision your dream to represent; ask your future self how he or she will feel about you going through what you are today to get there; you can do one thing that will take you in the direction of your dream.

After discovering that I’m not willing to accept the consequences (for today) of moving to Hawaii, I now understand why I have been sabotaging my dream of moving back there.

Getting fit: I asked my future self what she would say to my current self and she said, “thank you for caring enough about yourself today to put the necessary effort toward having a healthier future life.”

Lastly, “the world is your oyster.” I believe you have all of the capabilities to get whatever you desire. The key is finding it within yourself and then you’ll be able to realize it externally. If you want to be rich, find the riches within You. If you want a relationship, have a quality relationship with You. Find that “thing” that is holding You back from realizing your magic wish. My “magic wish” for you is that you get where you’re going with peace, self-compassion, and with an intrinsic knowing that your dream is already living within you…after all, since you’re reading this, you are absolutely alive! King Kamehameha agrees 🙂 Until next time, friend…much peace and many blessings.


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach who helps others discover the areas of their lives that are creating imbalance, discomfort, confusion, or dis-ease. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling), works individually with clients and also presents lectures, workshops and classes to others seeking inner growth, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to uncover hidden sabotage patterns. A retired Navy veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching of all walks of life. To contact her or to book a Holistic Coaching appointment, please visit karensolt.com.

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Acceptance Does Not Mean Approval

Screen Shot 2016-09-03 at 3.44.36 PMThings happen that we don’t like…it’s just a fact of life. How we adapt to those negative things can make all the difference in the world to how much serenity and peace we walk around with. I’ve never met a person that just plain wants to be unhappy, but I have met many people who are just plain unhappy. I would guess that many of these people are unhappy because they are not in acceptance of the circumstances in their lives. If that’s true, then how do we find a way from unhappiness and non-acceptance toward happiness and peace (acceptance)?

I have written about acceptance before in a few of my blogs. The reason that I keep “harping” on this topic of acceptance is because it is crucial for peace, to un-attach and let go of resentments, for forgiveness, and for a life of letting others make the choices they need to make to live their own authentic lives. In my forgiveness blog, I wrote, “I personally don’t believe that someone can betray me. What that person can betray is my values, such as trust, honesty, commitment, etc…As long as this person fell in line (met my expectations) with what I wanted him or her to be, I remained in “approval” of him or her. As soon as “that thing” happened that I didn’t like, I was confused, felt betrayed, and then “disapproved” of that person.” As soon as I let go of needing to approve or disapprove of someone else, I realize that all I really need to do is accept him or her for being a unique person who is fully capable of making his or her personal choices.

To require or expect that someone fall in line with your values to stay in your life is controlling behavior, yet can give you the illusion that they are willing “to do anything for you.” At the end of the day, if I alter my life in order to gain acceptance from a person or persons, I essentially abandon authentic parts of myself in order to be accepted. When that happens, I will resent myself yet I will blame the person I’m trying to gain approval from…and nothing goes right in the “blame game.”

I know, this relationship stuff is tricky, yet it really comes down to some very basic fundamentals. You do not have to approve of everything that someone does in your life…what will help (help, help) you though, is to accept the decisions others make as what they needed to make. If they are important to you and it affects you to the point that it goes completely against your values, my recommendation would be to employ open conversation techniques like I discuss in the pink elephant blog. Relationships don’t have to end if you can find acceptance that others make decisions that you might not make. You want people to be unique and bring a dimension to your life that enhances it…and even a negative dimension can bring you a necessary trigger so that you can process unresolved issues. Thank you for “accepting” whatever portions you want of what I’ve written here (no need to approve, I promise :-))…it’s my belief and I hope it gives you some steps away from the need to approve toward the freedom of acceptance. Until next time friend…much peace and many blessings.


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach who helps others discover the areas of their lives that are creating imbalance, discomfort, confusion, or dis-ease. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling), works individually with clients, creates videos, and also presents lectures, workshops and classes to others seeking inner growth, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to communicate more authentically. A retired Navy veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching of all walks of life. To contact her or to book a Holistic Coaching appointment, please visit karensolt.com.


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Elephants are Cute…But Pink Elephants Suck

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“There’s a pink elephant in the room.” We’ve all heard that phase, right? What is a pink elephant and how did it become the spokes-animal for poor communication or things that people are avoiding? If you’re looking for those answers, I doubt I’ll be able to provide them. But if you’re looking for some thoughts about the importance of communication and overcoming pink-elephant syndrome (I made that up), you came to the right spot.

In my opinion, effective communication is at the top of the list (I believe it’s number one) of essentials in relationships. This does not have to be romantic relationships only…it can be at work, with family members, with friends, and even effectively communicating honestly to oneself. To me, a “pink elephant” represents fear…fear of rejection, fear of intimacy, fear of vulnerability, fear of shame, fear of judgment, and on and on and on.

When we solicit the pink elephant to the room, the thought pattern goes something like this, “If I tell her that I’m not happy with how we discipline the children, I’m afraid she’ll get angry with me.” Or, “If I tell him that I feel smothered when he gets upset about me for hanging out with my friends, he’ll be hurt.” Both of those statements might be true, but they definitely remain true if they’re not verbalized. You see, the problem with the pink elephant is that the longer these unspoken feelings go on, the more poor communication calories the pink elephant consumes and the larger that big guy gets. Eventually he will be so large that you won’t know what the issue was in the first place…all you’ll see is a pink elephant dividing a relationship full of resentment.

How do we work through pink elephant challenges? First, honestly talking about “tough stuff” takes courage, vulnerability and walking through whatever fear is being avoided. For me, I have to take ownership of my experience and not make the other person responsible for how I feel, which isn’t easy…this takes a lot of insight and honest self-reflection. I have to look inward and ask myself, “What am I experiencing and what am I fearing?”

So, let’s look at the two examples above for an anti-pink elephant syndrome communication:

* In the first one, if I were to say, “Honey, there’s a part of me that’s uncomfortable with how we discipline the children and I’m curious if you would be willing to discuss it with me?” This isn’t placing blame, it’s saying, “Hey, we’re a team. Let’s find something that feels right for both of us.”

* In the second one, if I were to find the courage to say, “Hey babe, sometimes I’d like to go hang out with my friends and it feels like that can be a challenge for you. Am I reading that right and, if so, can we talk about it?”

All you’re looking for is an opening to the conversation. How your husband, wife or partner hears it might create some defensiveness, but stay present, breathe and keep rephrasing how it “feels for you” (without blaming). I’m not saying that you will solve all of your problems in one sitting…but the opening will occur, the pink elephant will start to shrink, you will gain some courage, and you will start having honest dialogue with those who are important to you.

Look, you are going to be in relationships with others…it’s just a fact of life. You owe it to yourself to be you and speak your truth. If you find yourself not wanting to speak to someone important to you about an issue, look inward. What is it that you fear? Is the fear valid or is it just fear of an uncomfortable conversation? You can even start the conversation with, “Hey, I feel like there’s a pink elephant in the room. I respect and value our relationship so much that I want to talk about something that’s bothering me. You mean that much to me. Are you willing to sit down and talk?” Those conversations are amazing and intimate and will take your relationships to the next level. You deserve that. Paco (my dog) agrees…we just had a tough talk about treats…it wasn’t easy, but it was important (don’t worry, we’re fine) :-). Until next time friend…much peace and many blessings.


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach who helps others discover the areas of their lives that are creating imbalance, discomfort, confusion, or dis-ease. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling), works individually with clients and also presents lectures, workshops and classes to others seeking inner growth, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to uncover hidden sabotage patterns. A retired Navy veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching of all walks of life. To contact her or to book a Holistic Coaching appointment, please visit karensolt.com.


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Be the change…

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The thought, “hell yes, one person can change the world!” passed through my mind recently. That’s big progress, considering the mega-trillion random thoughts that this girl gets to deal with on a daily basis. So friend…some thoughts about that thought: A smile, a hug, a handshake, soft eyes, connection, honest communication…truly, it’s small AND it’s what will change the world. It starts with self-connection, learning to connect to “self” in the presence of others ultimately helps you connect to them…it’s not being afraid because of differences…it’s feeling good and hopeful, trusting that they want peace, love and connection as much as you do.

Last week I was sitting in the Nashville airport looking for Elvis. I was later informed that I was wasting my time…Elvis is apparently in Memphis :). That’s when I had that thought about changing the world, as I was people watching. Anyway, I was on my way to see a good friend in Charleston, South Carolina, which was my first Navy duty station, 30 years ago. I was anxious about returning to Charleston, as it wasn’t one of my best experiences. I was a naïve young girl from the West and had a quick wake up call…the South was very different than the West…it was confusing. I was ready and hopeful for a new Charleston experience. Happily, this time around I found a lot more connection to others in Charleston than I ever expected. I believe that’s because I brought a different me. 30 years ago I was disconnected from everything…Charleston didn’t stand a chance…it wasn’t the place…it was me. I was disconnected from people, from culture, from differences…from myself.

I never wanted to be that writer…you know, the one that quotes Ghandi, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” But it’s so true and, as much as I want to make others responsible, it absolutely starts with me. I have to connect first, to find myself in another person…I need to give the smile first…if the other person doesn’t smile back, that’s okay…it was a gift from me. Maybe someday he or she will learn to receive that gift. People are defended for various reasons, all of which I know nothing about. Maybe that smile will invoke an exhale of some of that defense…it’s not up to me…all I can do is show up and connect.

The more I write, the more I’m hearing the need for positive vibes…we all need love and peace…we all need connection…we all want to know that it’s going to be okay. It’s going to be okay! I believe that whole-heartedly. We get through…we adapt…we survive…we thrive. A challenge (if you care to accept) is to connect with one stranger today…just a little eye contact with a smile. It’s small and it’s huge. It just might make his or her day and yours in return. You will connect to amazing pieces of yourself and, even more importantly, you will “be that change.” Ghandi agrees. Until next time, friend…much peace and many blessings.

 


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach who helps others discover the areas of their lives that are creating imbalance, discomfort, confusion, or dis-ease. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling), works individually with clients and also presents lectures, workshops and classes to others seeking inner growth, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to uncover hidden sabotage patterns. A retired Navy veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching of all walks of life. To contact her or to book a Holistic Coaching appointment, please visit karensolt.com.

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Perseverance…Fighting or Flowing?

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I love turtles…I pretty much love most animals, but turtles and dogs are my favorites. I believe turtles are a perfect representation of the human spirit…the part of us that wants to be exposed…our peaceful inner self.

Now, I am not an expert on all things turtle; I just know that I feel peace and happiness in their presence. Symbolically, turtles have a hard shell that protects a fragile heart, just as many humans have reactively created a hard shell to protect a wounded heart. Turtles adapt and persevere. They slowly and methodically float through life…surviving on land and in the water. They are slow and serene…watching them float or sunbathe rewards me with a calming and peaceful feeling.

IMG_0989When I was in graduate school, we had to choose a word and write it on a rock that described one of our peers. The word that my peer gave me was “persevere.” I still have that rock…it means a lot to me and keeps me mindful of a part of who I am and what I’ve been through. It also reminds me that, although I do believe persevering has served my life, it’s not a place that I want to visit often. If I am persevering, then I am struggling, trudging through life, not accepting my current situation, getting through, or “fighting to get ahead.” If I’m resisting my current situation, I’m not flowing…I’m not in acceptance of this moment…I’m discontent…I’m putting one foot in front of the other to get to the next moment as fast as I can.

How can we manifest the flowing and peaceful perseverance of the turtle? With connection and compassion, for ourselves and for others. The ability to persevere shows strength in character…resilient spirit…adaptability. It positively serves in times where you have to keep putting one foot in front of the other…in times where you’re walking through the dark tunnel…in times where you have hit that wall. It absolutely serves your resilient nature. Persevering might mean inching along, crawling at times, then slowly walking, until we are running and eventually able to soar. There are times when we might be soaring, only to hit a wall (like the hummingbird) and have to inch along and persevere again.

I am of the belief that many of us are persevering through the current state of non-connection, of seeing our differences and not embracing our similarities, of hoping that we will get through this current time where civil unrest and retaliation is occurring. For me, persevering only serves if we can notice it and integrate positive change towards love, compassion, connection and peace.

Lastly friend, my hope is that you (and I) would persevere only as long as we need to. That we would channel our inner turtle…be adaptable…slowly, methodically, and peacefully move and float through life. Sometimes life can be painful, we get defensive and the hard shell wants to thicken with yet another layer over our fragile heart. Maybe keep that shell only as thick as it needs to be for true survival…maybe recognize when it wants to thicken and have compassion for yourself…maybe visualize floating and flowing and take a deep breath. After all, the turtle can breath and the turtle can float…and the turtle does all of that with peace and ease. Here’s to your inner turtle!  Until next time my friend…much peace and many blessings.


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach who helps others discover the areas of their lives that are creating imbalance, discomfort, confusion, or dis-ease. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling), works individually with clients and also presents lectures, workshops and classes to others seeking inner growth, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to uncover hidden sabotage patterns. A retired Navy veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching of all walks of life. To contact her or to book a Holistic Coaching appointment, please visit karensolt.com.


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Be a Connection Activist

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.”  Martin Luther King, Jr.

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I feel hopeful…a part of me is afraid to admit that…maybe I’m crazy. In a time where so many terrible and challenging things are illuminated in the media, how can I feel hopeful? One reason is that I am acutely aware that the media does not show all of the good happening in the world and that the good far outweighs the bad. For today, my truth is that this is a critical period for us to unite, see our commonality and activate goodwill and compassion. The process and the communication required to get us there is not something for which I have all of the answers, but I believe it starts with me and it starts with you. So I guess I’m searching for hope and clarity and I would guess you might be too.

I have my unique perspective on my life only. I know what it feels like to be discriminated against and afraid of losing my profession because of who I am; what it’s like to go to foreign countries and be afraid because of what my service uniform represented to others; and I know what it’s like to be glared at with disgust for what I represent to another person. I also know how good it feels to give and receive love, to connect with others and find parts of me in them, to walk with and experience nature with my dog, to work with many who have overcome extraordinary challenges, and to keep learning about this fascinating life that I share with all of you. It’s my perspective only…what it’s like to live my life.

How do we find the perspective of others? By empathizing or placing ourselves in their shoes to connect to and feel how it would feel for us. And just so you know, not one person has lived this life without struggle and pain. Empathy for the other is so valuable to expand our consciousness and open our hearts. When we only see people for the color of their skin, the uniform that they wear, the person that they love, the political affiliation they choose, or their religious or spiritual views, WE DON’T SEE THEM. We only see what they represent to us. We don’t see their heart, their joys, the love they share with their families, the good they do in the world. If we can open our hearts and connect to the other person’s joys, fears, sorrows, or dreams, we just might find that they are the same as ours. My goal is to stand in their shoes…to understand my version of their challenges…to not be afraid of connection and discussion…to truly listen. I’m not always great at it but it’s my goal.

You and I have a wonderful opportunity here…an opportunity to connect to the perspective of someone who lives a different experience, which is everyone who isn’t you. It’s an opportunity to be a connection activist…to treat others with the compassion, dignity, respect and empathy that you would like to be treated with. You and I also have an opportunity to look the other way, blame the other side, and keep living in fear of someone who doesn’t walk your exact path, which is everyone who isn’t you. It’s a choice.

My hope is that we all will continue to manifest peace, love and respect for each other. I will never understand your pain, as it is uniquely yours. I connect to my version of your pain, as I have definitely experienced pain and know what my pain feels like. Respecting others and creating curiosity and compassion for their unique journey is liberating…it’s necessary…it’s peace. I feel hopeful…maybe I’m crazy…I just see this time period as such an opportunity to bring the light in to eclipse the dark. I think it’s a time where many of us are thinking, “enough is enough.” I sure am. Since you are human and reading this, you are my brother or sister…I hope to keep connecting to that and that only. Until next time my friend…much peace and many blessings.

p.s. For more on connection, check out my blog: We Seek Connection…Yet We Fear Connection


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach who is dedicated toward helping others discover the areas of their lives that are creating imbalance, discomfort, confusion, or relational problems. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling) and is passionate about inner emotional wellness. She works individually with clients and also presents lectures, workshops and classes to others seeking inner growth, better relationships, addiction help, and ways to uncover hidden sabotage patterns. A retired Navy veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching of all walks of life. To contact her or to book a Holistic Coaching appointment, please visit karensolt.com.


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