Finding Your Truth…

“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” Carl Jung

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I’ll bet you’ve heard someone say, “I’m just trying to find myself.” Or maybe you have said that statement enough that that you’ve become convinced that you’re also trying to find your “self.” Guess what? You are not lost. That person you seek is in there, waiting for you to come back and reclaim the “true” you. If you’d like to reconnect with your lost parts, I have some thoughts about why those parts might be in hiding and how you can integrate them back into your life, with self-awareness and self-compassion.

“Finding yourself” means that you have lost you, which pretty much makes you human. It means that you have created a false story about who you are, a secret, one that you even believe by now, and that secret has created shame about your perfect, authentic self. Exactly where and how does that happen? A great question…the confusion with this is very real…and it’s very confusing (nailed that point :-)). If you’re looking for you, my guess would be that, at some point, you lost the ability, courage, or the vulnerability to feel safe being you. Then the questions arise, “Who am I really?” and “What is authentic for me?” and “How can I be authentic if I don’t even know who I am?”

Let’s go back in time…to a time in your life when you were 100% authentically you…a time that you probably don’t remember. My guess would be that you were a cute, little, barely-had-hair kid in diapers…pooping, farting, burping little bubbles, giggling, crying (I mean, screaming at the top of your lungs!), and doing whatever you wanted to without consideration, hesitation, fear of rejection or self-judgment. You were you…not caring about anything or anyone other than getting your needs met and living your pea-perfect little life.

Screech!!!!! Something happened: Rejection, judgment, abandonment, abuse…something that scared you or made you feel isolated and ashamed. You might have cried for attention and been ignored (and today being ignored is unbearable). You might have been the kid that was picked last for the team (and today you are fitter than fit…or a perfectionist…or an overachiever). You might have been rejected by a friend who you were goofy with and who you trusted (and today you struggle with trust and fear of abandonment).

So, you felt rejected when you were being you…but your true rejection happened when you quit being you. That’s when you truly lost yourself…when you started acting cool to fit in, quit dancing that weird dance that you used to love, or you tried to cover up that laugh that made you sometimes snort. Getting back to that place where you know, trust, and value weird, goofy, unique you, 100% of the time, is a lifelong journey of experiencing self-rejection, then engaging in self-compassion, and ultimately discovering beautiful moments of self-acceptance.

So, this journey of reconnecting with True You…where does one start? First, by getting honest…by getting real with yourself, and mixing in a heavy dose of self-compassion. You have been living a lie. That lie kicked off at some point when you didn’t feel safe to be you, it began out of self-preservation and has woven itself into your life ever since. It has become such a big part of you, that you don’t know where “True You” ends and where “Faking-it You” begins.

Find a time when you became who you needed to be out of self-preservation, even though it could be a time or a place where you were too young to remember. Find a time where you recall feeling rejected, where you hid deep in your shell. Can you place your finger on it? What happened and how did you feel? Do you recall adapting to fit in to not experience that rejection again? Did you become stronger, cooler, smarter, or did you hide in sports, addictions or perfectionism? Who were you before that moment?

After acknowledging that you let a part of you go to keep things copacetic, to fit in, to be accepted, or even to survive in your family, here’s some thoughts about how to reclaim unique you, find belonging, and ultimately find self-acceptance:

  • Notice when you don’t feel safe being 100% yourself and get curious. If you’re being arrogant or if you’re hiding in the corner, that means you don’t feel safe simply being you. Where are you hiding and trying to fit in? At work, on social media, with friends, or even at home? What are you afraid or ashamed of? What do you think will happen if they know the real you?
  • Check in with your heart, your gut, your intuition, your feelings. If something doesn’t “feel” right, it probably is not right for you. When we betray that feeling or message from our center, we betray our True Self.
  • Step into your values…the things that you stand for, the things that inspire you. And on the other hand, be okay letting things go that don’t serve you. You do not have to do anything like anyone else…you have your own path, your own route…honor that.
  • Notice how you’re hooked and distracted from being with you. Through addictions, social media, television, perfectionism, or people pleasing? When you get uncomfortable in silence, where do you run? How do you escape being with you? Sit and be present with you…have compassion for you…your heart, your feelings, your sadness, …that a part of you is lost and scared.

That thing you seek? It’s within you. It is you…your heart…your childlike curious, playful, giggling, dance-like-a-dork, goofy self. It is waiting for you to come back, and it is tired of being rejected and keeping your secret…the one that keeps you trying to fit in so that you feel like you belong. You belong. Period. You not only can come out from hiding, your heart and the world needs you to…it’s crucial that you do so. We have too many unhappy people trying to be like other seemingly happy, but probably unhappy, people to fit in. By embracing unique you, you will bring more love and peace to this world than you can ever imagine.

Lastly, you were given a one-of-a-kind human code, which means there is not one other person exactly like you…you’re special…precisely who you’re supposed to be, and where you’re supposed to be. Love that person. He or she will feel safe enough to come out from hiding when self-compassion and self-acceptance override fear and self-rejection. I’d like to meet that person someday. Carl Jung agrees, and he is super authentic and beyond cool. Thanks for being unique 100% you. Peace friend ✌😊

p.s. Check out my video: Finding Your “Self”…Are You Really “Lost?”


Karen Solt is an Emotional Wellness Coach, YouTuber, Blogger, and activist for peace, unity, freedom, equality and connection. A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


Copywrite 2017 by Karen Solt, all rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Karen Solt and karensolt.com with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

How Much are You Worth?

Screen Shot 2017-09-10 at 7.36.59 PMWhat makes you worthy? Is it the color of your skin, how much money you have, who you love, where you were born or live, how much you weigh, or who you do or don’t call your “God?” Let’s raise the stakes…How about if you’re in prison or on parole, or a drug addict, or you have mental illness, or you’re gay or transgender, homeless, orphaned, an immigrant…who did I miss?

Seriously friend, in a world where there is comparison and discrimination at every turn, what makes someone more “worthy” than someone else? Is it a number, a feeling, a birthright, a rite of passage? Drum roll…Nothing does…No Thing…Nopie…Zero…Nada…Zilch.

Your true “worth” is your “self-worth,” which is all about you and not what you’ve done, who you love, your circumstances, gender, culture, or any other external factor. You have a beating heart and expanding lungs, which means you qualify for the same “worth” as anyone else with those same physiological traits, which mean all humans (#crystalclear).

One of the problems that contributes to this “self-worth dilemma” is that we mostly measure our self-worth by comparing ourselves to others. How many of us emphasize something external or someone else’s successes or failures to validate self-worth? How about, “A lot” (scientific answer). But true self-worth has nothing to do with any external factor. It’s not about living in the suburbs or on the streets, having a million dollars or going bankrupt, losing or gaining 20 pounds, being single or in a relationship, not having a car or driving a Range Rover, being fired or getting a promotion. True self-worth is a “who-I-am-right-now…as-is” thingamabob (yes, I was happily surprised that’s a word).

The dictionary defines self-worth as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” As a person (not a beautiful, skinny, millionaire…doesn’t say that (and I looked)). Self-worth comes from an intrinsic (within you) force. It’s “how you sense your value.” It’s “how you sense your worth.” It’s all about how you sense and embrace your limitations or perfections.

So, how do we find this “take-me-as-I-am” self-worth? A great first step would be to determine how you feel about your own worth (money, job, relationship, health, etc.). If you tell yourself, “I am not…as good as, rich as, happy as, etc.” then you have a good indication for where you have low self-worth by comparing yourself to others and thereby rejecting yourself. If you find some self-worth based on comparing yourself to the struggles of others (i.e. “I’m not rich, but at least I’m not a homeless bum.”), I might offer that this is not self-worth…this is judgment, lack of empathy and maybe just a “tad bit of self-righteousness” (she said with air quotes and a squeaky voice). Having empathy and compassion for that person in struggle might help you have less self-judgment and find some self-compassion for your own challenges. That long journey from self-rejection to self-acceptance requires a deep look at where you lost or rejected “You” and a huge dose of self-kindness and self-compassion in the rediscovery-of-self process.

Okay, we’re getting near the end of our time together and I can’t leave without this last bit. If it scares the crap out of you to believe you’re worthy…as worthy as the skinny, rich, confident, or successful person you compare yourself to, try this on for size…tell yourself, “I am not my job, my bank account, my weight, my education, what I did, where I came from, how many “Likes” I got, who I love, or who or what I believe in.” Then add this, “I am me…awesome and amazing…a beating heart and expanding lungs…a miracle. I am worthy and I am lovable. I am a kind, compassionate, breathing, feeling human being. That’s who I am and that worth is priceless.” Do it again…and again…eventually, you will believe it and your heart will be beyond grateful.

Lastly, the next time you’re with your partner, parent, child, friend, pet or other make-you-feel-good person or animal, give them a big hug and allow yourself to truly “feel how you feel about you.” Worthy? Content? Loved? Lovable? Yes. That “worth” is coming from your heart and maybe, just maybe, by connecting you with someone or something you love, that worth is connecting you to you. There is no price on that worth…I promise. Thanks for being you. Peace friend ✌😊

p.s. Check out my “How Much are You Worth?” Video


A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


Copywrite 2017 by Karen Solt, all rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Karen Solt and karensolt.com with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

 

 

Self-Doubt is a Mind Game

Screen Shot 2017-09-04 at 8.44.47 AM“Do you ever experience self-doubt?” It seems ridiculous to start by asking that question, but I went there anyway…you’re welcome. Expressing your creativity, this jumping in and putting-yourself-out-there, it’s scary stuff. For me it means removing my turtle shell (my vulnerability armor) and doing one last review before hitting the “Publish” button. At first I experience the joy of accomplishing a new project and I feel fulfilled and proud. And then my inner critic shows up and sends me into a “self-doubt spin” for a few minutes, hours and sometimes even days, all depending on the material that I “published.” “I hope they like it.” “What the hell am I thinking?” “Did I say too much?” “Who do I think I am?”

“There is nothing more vulnerable than creativity. If it’s your art, then it’s something you love…and when you love, you’re vulnerable,” says Brene’ Brown. Sharing yourself with the world is a balancing act of connecting to how people experience you (their opinion) and not being defined by those opinions…not easy stuff here, my friend. It feels scary as hell sticking your neck out there and speaking about the things that matter…and for those of us doing it, we simply keep doing it. Why? Exactly. Because our “Why’s” are stronger than our fears or doubts. Our “Why’s” are calling us to speak out, to give more…to express…to show up.

Indulge me here…your self-doubt is your scared mind that’s trying to protect you. It believes that by keeping your life small, predictable and consistent (and controlling you with fear and doubt if you step out too far), you won’t get hurt. And collaborating with your scared mind are your inner critics…doubt, fear, uncertainty, and comparison…all working diligently to keep you afraid and in line.

Good so far? Cool. Now imagine that the remedy for your self-doubt is to do that thing that scares you. It requires “courage,” which emanates and is birthed from your strong and amazing heart, to acknowledge the mind game of self-doubt and keep moving forward anyway. You see, if you’re moving in the direction of your “Why,” you will be doing new things, which is vulnerable, exciting AND scary. But, because you’ll keep moving through it, your mind game of self-doubt will give way, because your heart always overrules your head (it’s the anatomy chain of command (yes, I made that up)).

Back to me…because self-doubt decided to creep (because it’s creepy) in a few days ago and I felt myself retreating into my turtle shell, I chose to move through it and find some of its benefits (yes, I’m a little crazy…yes, I’m good with it). What I discovered is that Self-Doubt has great purpose for self-realization.

Here we go…If Self-Doubt is:

  • A Fantasy (a projection of fear, rejection, dread, failure, and judgment…all things that haven’t happened) – Bring yourself back to this very moment and your “Why” (to connect, to serve, to love, to co-create peace, etc.).
  • Fear of RejectionFind where you might be rejecting yourself. This, in turn, can create a beautiful opening for self-compassion and ultimately, self-acceptance.
  • Disbelief and Distrust– Do some soul-searching for where you lack faith…for where you underestimate the magic of this world and the miracle that you are.
  • Comparing Yourself to Others – Gain insight into how you place others either above (“my hero”) or below you (“that poor soul”).
  • Uncertainty and Lack of Confidence – Engage in some self-compassion and validate the courage you are expressing by jumping in…and then “let go” and trust.
  • Fear of Judgment – Explore where you might judge others for doing exactly what you’re doing, as “judgment” typically is self-projection. See The Good and Not So Good of Judgment (ye ol’ judgment blog).

Okay friend, you have a choice…If you don’t want self-doubt to knock on your door, stop growing, expanding, contributing, stretching, and constantly challenging your comfort zone. You will stay predictably numb and seemingly comfortable. You will shut the door on your creativity. Your mind might feel safe, your heart and your spirit will feel shattered and rejected…and I guarantee you, self-rejection is much more painful than self-doubt.

But I know you (I’m a wizard) and I know that won’t happen…that’s just not who you are. You challenge yourself, you grow, you expand, you contribute and you constantly kick your own ass into more creativity and less comfort…because that’s who you are and because you care.  As a result, self-doubt knocks on your door, maybe a lot and maybe a little, and you get to celebrate because if you’re not having self-doubt, you’re not pushing your limits.

It’s humanly okay to want to be accepted, liked, acknowledged, and embraced for your ideas and creativity. If your “Why” is clear and you enjoy what you’re doing, keep doing it and embrace the courage that it takes to keep putting yourself out there. And when self-doubt knocks on your door, thank it for reminding you what a frickin’ badass you are…as it wouldn’t be there if you weren’t showing up and stretching. Can I get a “Hell yes?” Hell yes…Peace friends ✌😊

p.s. Check out my “Self-Doubt is a Mind Game” Video


A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


Copywrite 2017 by Karen Solt, all rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Karen Solt and karensolt.com with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

 

 

 

Taking a Trip…

IMG_1530I got home last night from a quick and fabulous birthday trip to some of the most amazing and beautiful places in the western United States. I know…I’m a lucky girl (for real)! I love seeing new places. I really dislike the “traveling to new places” part of traveling, have high car anxiety, and usually go kicking and screaming but, when I finally arrive at my “travel destination” (I lowered my voice there), it’s usually worth the blood, sweat and tears that “traveling” takes out of me.

One of the many “highs” of seeing new places is that I can avoid the comparison game…the one that my ego plays where it compares whether this experience is “better or worse” than the last time (you know that game, right?). Because the comparison game is off the table with a new place, it’s fresh, exciting (I almost broke out into a dance, too!), and keeps me “in the moment.” It’s probably my favorite part of exploring new places. I’m curious, playful and welcoming…fully immersed in the moment…taking it all in.

IMG_1720I wonder why it’s so hard to do this in normal, everyday life? I just answered my own question (you should try this writing thing…it’s very therapeutic). It’s because I’ve labeled it, “normal, everyday life.” Doesn’t that sound exciting? To me neither. It sounds very “ho hum…just me, going through normal, everyday life here…I’ll be okay…”

Now I feel selfish (great…). Is there such a thing as “normal, everyday life?” Maybe, but I kind of doubt it. It’s pretty much a miracle that my birthday, 276 years ago (yes, I founded the West…it was me) even happened. I’m not sure of the exact percentage (and I doubt humans that even think they know the exact percentage are accurate), but the probability that I was even conceived are like a gazillion to one (which is a lot). In that exact moment a miracle happened, and a “little ME” started growing. There was a bunch of other “little ME’s” that got passed over that day. Apparently, not to brag here, they hadn’t done the prerequisite “being-human” checklist to the Design Team’s satisfaction (mini-lesson: not everyone makes the team every time).

IMG_1748.jpgSo now, many years later, it takes a trip or a new experience for me to fully be in the moment…feeling everything…experiencing every drip of it. And maybe that’s true and maybe it’s just ME, being a little hard on myself (know anything about that?). What I’ve learned in these two and a half centuries is that this life is amazing and that I’m more grateful today for living than I ever have been. This is one of the gifts (and there are many…another gazillion) of aging. The older I get, the more I truly live…it’s a trip, I tell ya (little slang thrown in there for effect…you’re welcome). My appreciation for how I experience new places is really me experiencing myself in new places. I have a better appreciation of “ME” these days…new places help illuminate that and I am beyond grateful for that.

IMG_1834So, what’s the lesson here? Great question (you’re super good at this). My “birthday” reminds me that this life and ME in it are miracles of my internal and external world effortlessly colliding together. Many times, I (apparently) take that for granted and move through my day, my “normal, everyday life.” But this life? It’s not normal…this life is mind-blowing. This life, the older I get the more I truly believe this, is beyond what our human ego can comprehend…which is why sometimes it takes a trip to a new place to experience beautiful canyons, a lake that is pristine and perfect, big-horned sheep walking up the side of a rocky mountain (where humans need ropes and equipment), majestic beauty in canyon country, and an earth that is far more beautiful and perfect than I can do justice with this blog. You see, what opening my mind and being fully present in a “new place” does for me is opens my mind and allows me to be fully present with me in the beautiful life that I am living. What we see is what we project.

So, I took a trip. I let go and “suffered” through my car anxiety to get to a place that taught me that what we see is what we are. Sometimes the Design Team gives us a new experience to wake us up…a little more…to the fact that our internal and external world are one world…a world of perfection. Much Peace, my friend ✌️💜


 A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


Copywrite 2017 by Karen Solt, all rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Karen Solt and karensolt.com with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

The Sun is Human Too…

imagesI woke up this morning, semi-excited about the solar eclipse, and did what all good Boy Scouts do…I found the instructions to make an eclipse viewer. I got an empty shoe box, grabbed some aluminum foil, white paper, tape, scissors, and a thumbtack. I finished my duct-taped-together project, and an enthusiastic me went outside to “watch the show.”

And there I stood, like a complete geek, walking in circles, trying to get the little pinhole aligned with the eclipse. People drove by in their cars, seeing the weird lady peering into a shoebox. Me? I’m focused…I’m trying to get the damn pinhole aligned…I’m on a mission! I’m moving around, tilting my head, and finally see a little glow of a half-moon…and then it’s gone again. After a few minutes of trying it this way and getting a neck ache, I went back inside to find some different instructions (apparently, I am not a Boy Scout), which I did, which worked much better.

So back outside, and I’m sitting on my little lawn chair with my back to the solar eclipse (which just seems weird), watching (through my state-of-the-art viewer) the moon drift over the sun and smother its light. I’m curious what this eclipse means to me. I’m told (by many YouTubers, which means it’s true) that this eclipse has significant meaning. Is it a new beginning, as some are saying? Is it an ending to something old, as others profess? Is it a message from a faraway land to bring the world into a deeper consciousness? I’m like, “Whoa…Is it all of that?”

What literally happened today was the sun drifted behind and fell into, for a moment, the moon’s shadow. Metaphorically, I believe sometimes we can give way to the shadow that is trying to make a stand and take over our light. But it’s momentary…the light always comes back to reclaim its natural place in the universe, just as the sun did today. The shadow is still there, but it’s submissive again…it requires the light to survive and can’t dominate…it must shift and move and dodge and adapt to the presence of the light.

There are an extraordinary number of “light-workers” out here who want light, freedom, equality, and a humane, peaceful and loving world. And sometimes, just like the sun, those of us who want these things for the world fall into the shadow, I believe out of frustration, fear, anger, and a shame that what we’re trying to do isn’t getting through.

So, I’m sitting there, looking geekily into an old shoebox and receiving my eclipse lesson for today. Sometimes even the sun falls into the shadow. The brightest and most powerful light in the world, the one that keeps us alive and warm…even it, on occasion, falls into the shadow, for a second…and then that amazing and brilliant sun comes out the other side, retaking its rightful place as the light of the universe, while also honoring that the moon also has its purpose. Both are necessary for balance of the universe.

Sometimes it’s not easy staying out of the dark; falling into judgment, fear, criticism, and anger, and eventually projecting that darkness, that thing we’re upset about, outward onto others. I also know that it’s necessary to experience life as it unfolds and understand that, as a “human BEing,” navigating our own perceptions of this life, it will not always be bliss and peaches. As Carl Jung would say, One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” It’s a daily practice of bringing awareness to the darkness, having self-compassion, coming back to center and away from the extremes, and staying the course to co-create the world we envision.

So today, the sun fell into darkness…I guess that makes the sun human too. Peace friends ✌️💜


Karen Solt is an Advanced Holistic Coach, YouTuber, Blogger, and activist for peace, unity, love and connection. She holds a Masters in Psychology (Counseling) and works individually with clients, creates informative videos and blogs, and also presents educational workshops to those seeking self-awareness and inner peace. A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had a variety of incredible life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. 
To contact her or to book Holistic Coaching appointments, please visit karensolt.com.

Copywrite 2017 by Karen Solt, all rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Karen Solt and karensolt.com with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

 

An Extrem(ist) Solution?

Screen Shot 2017-08-18 at 2.18.27 PM.pngFeeling a little passionate today…there’s your warning. I watch the bullshit (that’s as nice as I could get) that is happening in America…projected hatred and a fight for perceived power and I stay in a constant state of, “are you kidding me and what can I do to help?” Man, it’s confusing as hell. It’s 2017 and I’m seeing “white supremacists” march, carry weapons, torches and swastikas and project violence toward people of color, different ethnic populations, the LGBTQ community, and anyone else that doesn’t “fall in line” with their fearful and intolerant views.

Dear White Supremacist, before I give you some thoughts about becoming a more open-minded and loving human being, I’d like to acknowledge that I believe you are in desperate need of finding out why you’re so scared. I get that it’s very painful to walk around in fear of having something taken from you. But, what exactly are you afraid of losing? America? Your heritage? Your rights to this country that I’m pretty damn positive belonged to Native Americans long before white European Americans showed up? Are you scared because some other white person told you this is “the way?” Okay, done acknowledging…you’re welcome.

So, are you ready to really make a difference? Awesome…because I totally have the solution. Drum roll…Join the military! Brilliant, right? If you care so much about “preserving your place in America” then do something about it…do something that will help your country. Because what you’re currently doing is not preserving anything, other than ignorance, narrow-mindedness, racism, and hatred, all in the name of what…your rights? What gives you those rights? Breathing? Blood? A pulse? A human body? That’s fascinating, as all the people you are projecting your hatred toward also breathe from their lungs, have blood coursing through their veins, and have a human heart that is protected by their human body. So truly, what have you done, other than believe the answer is “white people?” Come on already.

Still with me, white supremacist? Cool. Here’s why I believe you need a “service” intervention. What gives you those rights is people who served long before you decided that you were so special. My birth into the Navy was what some parents call a pregnancy after 10 years without a child, “my greatest mistake.” It saved my life, in many ways, and made me a part of a wonderfully huge blended family of veterans. Military service might kick a little sense into you and really serve you, as it teaches all of us how to co-exist (in very tight quarters I might add) with other humans, of all backgrounds. We blend…we serve…we are a family…a team on a mission…we are the ones that really do want to protect our heritage, so that all can enjoy freedom and prosper. There were definitely “human” tensions at times, because, after all, everyone who serves in the military is human (except for kickass service dogs, who are more human than humans…another blog, another day). And get this, if I’m standing next to someone of a different ethnicity and I’m in danger, I don’t give two shits where they’re from…I care that they have my back. And they always did.

So, if you want to really make a difference to “preserve your rights,” please put your money where your mouth is. If American heritage means that much to you, then show up and serve your country. Go figure out that the African American, Hispanic, Muslim, Jewish, gay, transgender, and #whateverelseyoufrickingfear person standing next to you is human, intelligent, funny and probably pretty awesome. And then, when your ass is on the line, maybe you’ll find out that they’re the only one there to save it. That would be a great time to pull out your swastika and torch and tell them how you “feel” about your imagined superiority. My guess is that they will save your ass anyway. After all, they’re probably more kind, humane and compassionate than you will ever be.

Shout out to all veterans and active duty! Thank you for showing up…Exhale…Peace friends ✌️💜


A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


Copywrite 2017 by Karen Solt, all rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Karen Solt and karensolt.com with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

 

 

 

The Power of Intention & My Commitment to You

Screen Shot 2017-08-13 at 10.26.04 PMThe more I write and do videos, the more I am creatively expressing, the more I clearly understand that a part of me emerges that I might not otherwise be aware of…and this process is very cathartic (I highly recommend it). You see, I have a deep understanding that much of my creative expression is meant to sort out my own personal processing, but since I share much of it with you, I also wanted to share my intention for my expression.

“I heart Oprah,” who discusses how her business changed when everything that she created was done with clear intention. I’ve heard this before, but hearing it this time inspired me to sit and get crystal clear about my intention, as my reality (and partly yours, as I’m projecting mine onto you) is created by my intention. So, I did just that…I sat down and got clearer than I ever have about my intention…what message I want to put out into the world and how I want that message to serve a higher good.

I have decided that I want to hold myself accountable and deliver only when my messages meet this intention. I also want you to know where I’m coming from with my work, so that you can decide if my message aligns with how you want to spend your valuable time and so you can call me out, any of you, if you feel I ever stray from this intention (unless it gets better…you can still call me out, but do so with a “Hell yeah!”). So here we go:

My Intention

  • Start the conversation
  • Communicate clearly to bring awareness
  • Talk about “the tough stuff” to break down barriers
  • Embrace and walk into discomfort (and love the part of me that’s scared)
  • BE genuine, authentic, goofy, real; whatever expression comes out, honor it and BE ME
  • Focus on and move toward what I want, not away from what I’m avoiding
  • Be clear about the purpose & intention behind each expression
  • Reside within my values of:
    • Love
    • Peace
    • Connection
    • Unity
    • Equality
    • Acceptance
    • Freedom
    • Compassion
    • Communication

So, that’s my intention. What’s yours? With each expression, what do you intend to put out into the world? Is it to help? Is it to hurt? Is it to create the world that you envision and desire or does it come from a “broken-down you” in an attempt to break other people down? Is it to take the pain that you have and project it outward so that you don’t have to feel it as much when you share that pain? Or is it to take the love that you have and project it outward to create more love within your world?

In his book, The Seat of the Soul, Gary Zukov writes, “Your intentions create the reality that you experience. Until you become aware of this, it happens unconsciously. Therefore, be mindful of what you project. That is the first step toward authentic power.”

Every day you create some form of public expression, and every action has an intention behind it that will ultimately determine the outcome of whatever you’re doing. Your higher self’s (your highest good) intention is compassion and love and is driven by your heart and soul’s desire. Your lower self’s intention is driven by fear (and other icky things) and your ego’s need for predictability. How do you know what it is in any given moment? For me, it’s to get real and to check in with my heart. How does this feel? Does it send a message that is in line with my values? If it does, it will flow, as there will be no resistance. If it doesn’t, I will be resistant and reactive and need to dig deep to discover where I am fearful, angry, hurt, resentful, bitter, or needy.

In closing, intention is ultimately your authentic power. If we can be clear with our intentions and try to meet them when we share ourselves with others, we can keep co-creating the world we seek. My promise to you…If it doesn’t meet my intentions, I won’t share it…I will keep working on it. Will I always get it right? Probably not…but my intent is to try to keep striving for the peaceful world that I envision. Thanks for hearing my message and I’m happy to have you on this journey with me. Peace to you, my friend ✌️

p.s. Please check out my video on this topic at: https://youtu.be/XM3J82D3-DA


 A retired Navy Senior Chief veteran, Karen has had various life experiences that have created her unique style of coaching. She remains curious about the human experience and is extremely grateful for the wonderful life she shares in Southern California with her dog, Paco. You can learn more about Karen and her work at KarenSolt.com


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