The Blame Game…

Blame.  “I’m (uncomfortable/mad/hurt/not happy) and it’s your fault.”  That means that I’m not taking ownership of myself and my life experiences.  I have given that power to you.  I have disempowered myself and have made you the reason for my anger and unhappiness. Isn’t that sometimes what we do?  Fall into the blame game…making othersContinue reading “The Blame Game…”

The Drama Triangle…

Today we’re discussing my interpretation of the relationship triangle, or what is lovingly referred to as the “Drama Triangle.”  By gaining some awareness of these roles that we play out all (to some extent), this can have a positive effect on creating healthier relationships.  If you want that, read on… The Rescuer, Victim, and PersecutorContinue reading “The Drama Triangle…”

What’s Her Problem?

It’s another tough conversation today, my friend. This one’s about inappropriate sexual behavior and language, much of which has been all over the media lately. I’m sharing from my own experience and perspective, and I am not looking to blame or shame either side.  Do I have a solution toward making it better?  Well, IContinue reading “What’s Her Problem?”

Tough Conversations…Talk About “It”

“With communication, you bond; without it, you separate.” Karen Solt Having relationship problems?  Having trouble honestly discussing them with your partner?  That would not be unusual.  Here’s the deal:  if you don’t feel safe and valued in your relationship, you can’t communicate your true feelings; so, you don’t have an honest relationship…yet. This dishonest, non-communicative relationshipContinue reading “Tough Conversations…Talk About “It””

Narcissism is no Joking Matter.

“Many of our problems stem from attitudes like putting ourselves first at all costs.” — The Dalai Lama Yep, narcissism.  We have all encountered someone who is so over-the-top arrogant that we label them “a narcissist.”  But Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not something that we take should lightly or “sideline-diagnose” people with. A true narcissistContinue reading “Narcissism is no Joking Matter.”

Everyone has an Opinion…

I’m currently traveling on a plane, sitting in the middle seat between two people I don’t know. I have, of course, formed an opinion about them, but I don’t really “know” them.  That’s what we do, right? We make judgments and form opinions.  It comes naturally, but those opinions say more about me than theyContinue reading “Everyone has an Opinion…”

Elephants are Cute…But Pink Elephants Suck

“There’s a pink elephant in the room.” We’ve all heard that phase, right? What is a pink elephant and how did it become the spokes-animal for poor communication or things that people are avoiding? If you’re looking for those answers, I doubt I’ll be able to provide them. But if you’re looking for some thoughtsContinue reading “Elephants are Cute…But Pink Elephants Suck”

Expectations — the Subtle Setup

I’ll let you in on a little secret: If I have resentment toward someone or I am feeling depressed about some past thing or event, I have an unmet expectation. The subtle setup of an expectation can hit me like a left jab before I even knew it was there. What is an expectation anyway?Continue reading “Expectations — the Subtle Setup”