Pssst…hey friend, have any thoughts on depression? I’ll bet you don’t like it. I’ll also take a guess and say it’s not a lot of fun to be around someone who is in a deep state of depression. You get depressed about their depression…you want them to feel better, happier, more joy again and being around happiness is much easier than sadness. Yet, since most of us are human (I think), we all experience depressed periods…all of us.
Definition time: Depress means to push or pull something down into a lower position. With depression, you are residing in your past with regret, sometimes guilt, most likely with things you wish you could change. You’re pressed inward, trying to rescue yourself.
To be clear, this blog is not talking about chronic, diagnosable and biologically-driven depression, such as Major Depressive Disorder (MDD). MDD is not “situational” depression, which is a response to loss and grief. MDD is chronic and severe and can create a lack of hope and thoughts of suicide. It’s serious and if you know someone who you think is severely depressed, get them some help. At a minimum, you can notify a family member of your concern. If you believe they are suicidal, call 911 and stay with them until help arrives.
Back to situational depression…when you lose something you care about, you grieve. You grieve the dream…the expectation that something was going to be different than it has turned out. You “expected” that relationship to last forever. It didn’t. You “expected” your health would be good enough to go on your “bucket list” trip and you now have a serious illness. You “expected” your employment would last and that you’d be able to support your family. You have just been laid off. There were high hopes and plans for the future. You’re grieving the loss of your unmet expectations.
Depression is a normal part of the grieving process. Your loss is a reality, you have little energy, and you’re sad. You’re withdrawn, lethargic, and de-energized and you find yourself in the depression stage of grieving.
What to do when you’re experiencing depression?
So, if you’re currently experiencing depression, connect with your heart and please feel your necessary and important feelings. Reach out to people and allow them to help. Day by day, you will integrate the valuable loss that you’re grieving, your painful feelings will dissipate, and life will start to normalize in a different way. Because, as I’ve said before, when you’re in the Dark Swamp, you simply keep moving through it.
Thanks for being you. Peace friend ✌😊
p.s. You can check out my video on this topic: Dealing with Depression
p.p.s. Just like my blog last week on “Coping with Anxiety…”, I believe having a grasp on common psychological challenges can create connection and self-compassion. Be kind to yourself and to others…you never know what they’re going through.